I was supposed to have picked up a friend today. She was going to come and visit for a few days. However we are so utterly broke at the moment that we couldn't drive to Spokane to get her. I felt bad but on some level not so bad. She didn't offer to help pay for gas and hasn't for the last several times we've picked her up on the way to some event. She also invited herself to come and stay. Usually I don't mind. I am pretty relaxed about people coming to stay and I try not to have them pay for gas or food (as they are guests), but we are hurting so bad financially, we just can't drive people around all the time, especially when they don't live in town. And we really don't have a lot of food.
This situation would have been much different had Skoora not had such an awful paycheck and nearly all of our bills come due.
Thankfully, as far as I know. This friend didn't seem upset when I told her. But then again, I don't know her very well and she is extremely difficult to read. Another friend of mine, who has met her, said she was creepy. Well, I don't find her creepy. I would like to get to know her better.
Skoora and I, a friend from Kellogg, and this new friend are all going to the Litha camp out with the Inland Empire Pagan Guild this weekend. We all decided since we are riding in the same car and will set up our tents together, that we would all pitch in for food for the weekend and share. I thought that was the plan anyway. Until this new friend made a strange comment. She said "I'll get this stuff on my costco card and you can pay me back". I was dealing with half a dozen other things and I was sick, so it kind of threw me, so I didn't clarify what the hell was going on. So now we have an issue that needs to be dealt with. I am really unsure how to handle it because she is so damned hard to read.
She was the one who wanted to split the food up between all of us (as in we each buy or bring a little food) and share. Generally that means that no one has to pay anyone else back. So, I have spoken to my friend from Kellogg and she said that she would not only pitch in for gas but she would help us pay this other girl back if she needed to. Honestly, this other girl isn't getting anything too expensive or that much so I don't know what her problem is. I know she's not going to pay for gas. I also think it's really unfair that my friend from Kellogg should have to pitch in more. With that said, when I get my first pay check from this new job, I will be paying my friend from Kellogg back whatever she pitches in.
I think I have also decided that if we do have to pay this new friend back for food. I may have to have a talk with her about our friendship. I would like to be friends with her, to get to know her, but I will not be taken advantage of. Especially when Skoora and I are trying to dig ourselves out of a hole and get back on our feet. I really don't want to have such a talk with anyone. It is uncomfortable and I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings. But, like I said, I'm not going to let someone walk all over me or Skoora.
This situation would have been much different had Skoora not had such an awful paycheck and nearly all of our bills come due.
Thankfully, as far as I know. This friend didn't seem upset when I told her. But then again, I don't know her very well and she is extremely difficult to read. Another friend of mine, who has met her, said she was creepy. Well, I don't find her creepy. I would like to get to know her better.
Skoora and I, a friend from Kellogg, and this new friend are all going to the Litha camp out with the Inland Empire Pagan Guild this weekend. We all decided since we are riding in the same car and will set up our tents together, that we would all pitch in for food for the weekend and share. I thought that was the plan anyway. Until this new friend made a strange comment. She said "I'll get this stuff on my costco card and you can pay me back". I was dealing with half a dozen other things and I was sick, so it kind of threw me, so I didn't clarify what the hell was going on. So now we have an issue that needs to be dealt with. I am really unsure how to handle it because she is so damned hard to read.
She was the one who wanted to split the food up between all of us (as in we each buy or bring a little food) and share. Generally that means that no one has to pay anyone else back. So, I have spoken to my friend from Kellogg and she said that she would not only pitch in for gas but she would help us pay this other girl back if she needed to. Honestly, this other girl isn't getting anything too expensive or that much so I don't know what her problem is. I know she's not going to pay for gas. I also think it's really unfair that my friend from Kellogg should have to pitch in more. With that said, when I get my first pay check from this new job, I will be paying my friend from Kellogg back whatever she pitches in.
I think I have also decided that if we do have to pay this new friend back for food. I may have to have a talk with her about our friendship. I would like to be friends with her, to get to know her, but I will not be taken advantage of. Especially when Skoora and I are trying to dig ourselves out of a hole and get back on our feet. I really don't want to have such a talk with anyone. It is uncomfortable and I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings. But, like I said, I'm not going to let someone walk all over me or Skoora.
Is there a possibility she was trying to be generous this time? As in; I'll pay for food this time, and you can just pay next time/when you have the chance?
ReplyDeleteIf that's not the case I would just stay away from her. If she's weird to begin with, no need to have such conversations and waste one's energy. Just keep her at a distance.
I am not sure, that's why I would like to talk to her about it. But I don't want to do it over text nor over the phone. I would like to do so in person.
DeleteOn a slightly separate issue, Skoora is annoyed with her because she will ask to be picked up if we are going to an event but she doesn't tell us until after she is in the car that she has to be home at a certain time. Which, kind of puts a wrench in our plans. We like to stay longer at meetings and events with our pagan group and actually socialize with them. So that is something else we have to speak with her about.
Huh, I just posted but there was an error...
ReplyDeleteWell, I asked if it's possible she was being generous this time, as in; I'll pay this time and you can get the next/when you have the chance?
Yeah I think we really do just need to speak to her and understand what's up. She's just so dang hard to read O_O! No one has lots of money these days - I get that - but we do need to figure out what she meant. It's just so weird. Or maybe she thought we wanted her to buy everything and just pay her our part? That might be it too. We'll figure it out later. I hope ><!
ReplyDeleteMe too! since she texted me and told me that she couldn't get part of what she was supposed to get, I think we can rule out us paying her back since we have to cover what she couldn't get. It's no big deal.
DeletePeople are darn tricky sometimes! I hope you manage to have a wonderful Litha weekend anyway!! xxx
ReplyDeleteI've managed to get most of my homework finished and I think it will be a good weekend. I hope you have one as well! *hugs*
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